Hello friends! It’s been way too long since I’ve blogged. But wow, life has been so busy for myself and I know for a lot of those around me. The past 6 months of my life have been life changing and I’ve grown so much individually. I chose to blog about this topic because I feel like this is an area of my life that I’ve improved on immensely in these past 6 months, and I know a lot of women my age have or are facing the same challenges as me when it comes to this topic.
The biggest issue I’ve had with this statement is that people sometimes see you as being selfish. Being called “selfish” is hard to hear, for me at least. I’ve always worked toward being the best person I can be, the last thing I want is to be looked at as selfish. With that being said, I’m not saying to only worry about your wants and needs and forget everyone and everything else. Because at the end of the day, that is selfish. It’s important to consider others, but there’s a time and place to put yourself first and I’ve always had a hard time doing this because I’ve always been such a people pleaser.
I try to look at this topic like I would a relationship. You can never truly thrive in a relationship with a significant other until you love yourself first. From my own experience, it’s hard to move forward and succeed without that self love because there are too many obstacles along the way resulting from insecurities, trust issues, etc.
So in order to really help others in the world, wouldn’t you want to be the best version of yourself first? I wouldn’t want to run around trying to make other people happy if I’m not even really happy myself. It just wouldn’t make any sense.
It’s not always easy to love yourself. Sometimes it takes reaching rock bottom and realizing that you can only really rely on yourself in life to realize just how worthy and special you really are. Being at the very bottom and growing and developing over time into this strong person that you don’t even recognize, and then looking back at all the changes you’ve made for yourself; it’s amazing and something to be so proud of. You realize how capable you are and how much you have to offer.
It’s awesome because it makes you see love and relationships so differently. It makes you cherish the good relationships, and puts a new perspective on the not so good ones. Loving yourself makes it so much easier to let go of people who are toxic in your life and be independent until the right people show up.
So, my point in this blog is just to encourage you to take steps in bettering yourself and loving yourself. Take time away from stressful situations or relationships, work, school, etc. and do the things you that make YOU happy. Then when it comes time for you to make an impact in someone else’s life, for whatever reason that may be, you can do it to your full potential because you’ve already loved yourself.
I want to live a life where I can help others and make an impact in others life’s. Something was always missing when I’ve tried to do this in the past, and looking back now, it was just just the fact that I didn’t know and love myself enough to be effective. Someone is always going to have their opinion of you. Surround yourself with people who are going to be supportive and encourage you to do these things for yourself. The right people won’t see it as selfish.
You are special, important, beautiful, worthy.. And if you’re looking for more words of encouragement, just scroll up and look at the bold words. You ARE all those things 💕 I wish I could give every person who’s struggling with self love a huge hug because I know how it feels. Instead, I’ll write out my feels to you guys.
Hopefully I’ll be able to keep up with blogging regularly again, I will do my best! Happy Wednesday, friends!